As today’s post happens to coincide with ‘International Women’s Day’ I thought I would turn my writing to something that has been on my mind recently, but something I think we all need to address and overcome. I’ve decided to split this post into different parts to make the whole topic more digestible and relatable, and the first one will be image.
This is something that I know a lot of people are guilty of; myself included, but who can blame us? In a world that is filled to the brim with images on social media of perfect girls, perfect houses, and perfect lives, sometimes it is difficult to not compare yourself or think that you’re falling behind. I mean, that’s basically what Pinterest is right? A collection of perfection.
There’s a quote I love that I’ve seen many times today that says ‘When women support each other, incredible things happen’, and it’s so true. As young girls, we are pushed to achieve more than other schools in exams, more than each other on the same university course, and to stand on our own two feet to get to the top; but the reality is, once we start working together instead of against each other, great things do happen. Self-comparison gets us nowhere, and other people’s successes should push us to try and achieve great things, and be happy for one another, not sulk that it didn’t happen for us this time around.
It’s easy to wonder why someone is slimmer than you, has fewer spots than you, bigger boobs than you, slimmer thighs than you, the list is endless – but you know what, it doesn’t matter. Even if someone is a size 8, a size 16 or a size 24, that shouldn’t alter your life in the slightest. You need to focus on yourself and not the others around you.
Comparison to others is so easy thanks to apps like Instagram that make everything look so pink, fuzzy and glowy – but this isn’t real life. When was the last time you put your worst side online? Maybe a selfie that shows you’re getting wrinkles? Or when you got mascara down your face because something made you cry for no reason? Or when your cocktail didn’t come in a fancy glass with an even fancier looking straw? No one posts the bad stuff on Social Media so it’s easy to get caught up in the hype of the ‘perfect’ life – it’s what we’re used to now.
I think as well that confidence comes with age. I would definitely say I am more confident now than I was 5 years ago, or maybe I just care less what people think of me? I know in my head I am doing the best I can, so if other people can’t appreciate that, then that’s their problem. This has definitely been a struggle from time to time, but once you start focusing on you, and not what others are doing around you, it helps you stay on your own track.
I’ve spent years comparing myself to others, and I’m sure I’m not the first and I won’t be the last. I’ve shed countless tears thinking that I am not pretty, thin or toned enough, and at times it’s made me so miserable. Everyone has their own ‘stuff’ which you have no idea about because it isn’t something we like to promote in our everyday life. We are all humans no matter what colour our skin is, what colour our hair is or how much money we have and we should empower each other to achieve great things.
I’m hoping that this blog will help you to open your eyes to all the amazing things that you might be missing because you’re wasting your life comparing yourself to others. You are unique and independent, and that’s what makes you beautiful – not how much makeup you can wear, or how tight your jeans are or whether your skin is spot free.
Never forget to be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.