This post comes as a result of yesterday’s migraine, and my body’s attempt to tell me to calm the f*** down and take a break…
I have suffered from migraines since I was 14 but they are very sporadic and have no real trigger; I can go a year without having one, or I can have 3 or 4 in a month. But this isn’t a post about migraines… it’s more of one to teach myself a lesson and stop getting so stressed about the little things.
With everything that’s happened this year, it’s fair to say that life has been more stressful than usual – these were things that were completely unexpected, life-changing and you guessed it, stressful to say the least. Stress is a funny thing because in all honesty you might not even know you are suffering, and then bam, you body flips out at you and encourages you to slow down. It’s no real surprise then that I have been suffering from migraines a lot more in the last few months than the past couple of years.
Sometimes as an adult it’s hard to take a break – we have limited days holidays, work 5 days out of 7, and so weekends feel wasted if we don’t cram-pack all the things into them that we can’t do Monday-Friday – that’s my way of looking at it anyway – but we also need time to regroup, relax and wind-down.
As a person, I have a very reactive temperament, meaning that if I get something in my head, I usually have to do it or research it straight away. I guess in a way its a coping mechanism to keep myself busy with suffering from anxiety, but it’s something I only really became aware of this year. Sometimes it can be apparent, but most of the time people won’t even realise it, and it’s something I’ve sort of self-diagnosed. To be quite honest, I’m not even sure if its a real thing, but understanding that side to my personality has helped me to become aware that sometimes I need to listen to my body.
You might be wondering how this links to being stressed, but in my eyes, if I didn’t have such a reactive personality, I probably wouldn’t wind myself up so much with unreachable, unattainable thoughts, therefore wouldn’t get as stressed, and here comes the 360… probably wouldn’t suffer from as many migraines.
It’s completely understandable for us to strive to have a perfect life, perfect relationship, perfect job, etc. we are constantly striving to update everyone else with the foolproof, instragrammed, social media-ready life that we are pretending to live, when in reality life isn’t perfect or beautifully filtered. But it’s what we’re used to.
Striving for perfection does not equal happiness. We need to cut ourselves some slack. Life is already hard enough as it is without getting worked up about things that you can’t control, and sometimes it’s ok to want to get away from it all – something we should never feel ashamed about.
We live in a world now where everything is so immediate. We can get the news instantly, get a taxi whenever we want, get food delivered 24/7 (that one being the main priority) yet sometimes all we really need is right there in front of us. We need to stop punishing ourselves for not being the best, because quite frankly, that’s not going to get us anywhere.
And in all honesty, we need to give ourselves a break. Whether its a night off, a weekend of country walks or a holiday. These little experiences help us to not completely lose our minds as twenty-somethings. Sometimes its good to step back, take some time, and remember that you are only human – needing to take a break from work life, social life or even just life in general does not make you weak – it helps you cope.